People and Parties

If you say you are going to come, then come! Let your yes be yes and your no be no. I know that sometimes "maybe" is inevitable, especially when money is involved. But if you say you are coming to something, I don't care how inconvenient it is for you, you gosh darn come!

If you have absolutely no intention of coming or think it's pretty sure you can't come, just say no! It's better to say no and not come, or say no and come than to be lame and say yes you're coming and then don't show up! And golly, it is rude to cancel THE DAY OF! Especially when food is involved. The food has already been bought, and in a lot of cases already made!

So, do people think it is polite to say, sorry, I can't come the day of the get together?? Cause it's not. I think the only excuse to cancel the day of an event is if you're sick... or you Mommies, if your baby is sick. Honestly, I think that is the only reason I am ok with. I do my very best to go to things that I say yes to. Most of the time I don't "feel like" going, but I said I would and I am to be a woman of my word. It doesn't matter if something better comes up. When you make a commitment, you are to stick with it.

I guess that's where maybe comes in handy, you're not forced to make any kind of commitment, it is a "safe zone" for everyone who can't handle to make up their mind! Golly! MAKE UP YOUR MIND! It's like those surveys you take, you know, rate your experience 1 - 5 one being hated it and 5 being loved it... you know what the most common response is? 3. 3 is no opinion.... or, maybe! When you say maybe, you are saying, I can't make up my mind. I have no opinion. Wow... I guess maybe having no opinion is easy in some regards. No one to answer to, nothing to pick. No side to stand for. You get to be lukewarm with no ramifications if you come or don't come. But the party planner is left feeling disappointed and let down when in fact you don't come, which is the inevitable truth. Why you ask doesn't the party planner just plan the maybes for no? I guess you could say that she still has optimism in the face of continual disappointment, that MAYBE, just maybe this time the maybes will indeed become yes.

In these situations, when you look at the people who come, you really do see the people who care about you... or maybe it's just the people who have nothing better to do? I guess either way leaves something to be desired.